– Cheryl Rick Klein
When I was in my teens I made my first gynecologist appointment because I had a serious boyfriend and wanted to go on the pill.
Since I came from a strict family I was too afraid to tell my mother or ask her advice on what local doctor I should see.
I was young and scared so I decided I wanted to see a female doctor and found one online.
I told nobody about my appointment and went to this doctor myself. She seemed friendly and knew right away by my nervous composure I had never had a internal vaginal exam. I remember she tried to tell me the exam was “No big deal, ” with a smile.
I remember putting my legs in the stirrups and feeling very uncomfortable.
She inserted her finger and then some kind of metal object into my vagina. It felt extremely painful and even though it was my first vaginal exam my I thought to myself that something about this exam was just not right. After what seemed like forever the exam was finally over.
The doctor had this weird look on her face as she told me to get dressed. When I got off the table and stood up I doubled over in extreme pain. I thought to myself the vaginal pain was probably normal since it was my first exam. I drove home with my prescription for the pill and couldn’t stop my gut instinct telling me I was sexually violated.
A few weeks later I was having lunch with a friend of mine who told me over lunch about her recent visit to her gynecologist. Her story was almost exactly identical to my experience. I then asked her the name of her doctor and was sick to my stomach when I found out she saw the same female gynecologist I saw.
My friend and I were both sexually abused by the same woman. We went together and filed police reports and we were told that they would look into the matter but informed us most likely nothing could be done about the compliants because we had no physical evidence she had sexually violated us.
A few weeks passed and my friend told me that her father, who happened to be a cardiologist, looked into the matter after she decided to tell him about the still very traumatic experience.
He found out at least twenty other young women also filed reports with local police that they were sexually violated by this doctor. We all had one thing he noticed in common, it was all our first experience being vaginally examed, and that was very disturbing the fact just how many others like ourselves were also victims of a sexual crime and never knew it!
He then filed a formal complaint the state medical board. After a formal long investigation, the woman gynecologist who sexually abused so many young women had her medical license revoked.
I can’t change what happened to me but I can make sure my two teenage daughters never have to go through what I did.
Over twenty years later I told my 17 year old daughter, who I suspected is sexually active, that when she is ready to see a gynecologist for the first time I would make all the arrangements and go with her. She smiled and replied “Of course I will mommy I tell you everything.”
The point I am trying to make is maybe my still sexually traumatic experience could have been avoided if I had the type of mother I could have confided in about my sexual issues. If you have daughters my advice is tell them never to be afraid to confide in you about anything. I can’t change what happened to me but I can make sure my two teenage daughters never have to go through what I did.